Cuando miramos a la sociedad, cuando observamos la conducta de los jóvenes del nuevo milenio y de algunos de un poco antes, nos resulta imposible comprender, aceptar o tolerar formas de conducta incompatibles con acendrados valores de la sociedad, que vemos perdidos.
Es muy posible que muchos padres se sientan impotentes, se crucen de brazos y no sepan qué hacer.
Es también posible que muchos jóvenes y adolescentes no comprendan por qué o para qué viven, y no tengan claras orientaciones acerca de qué hacer con sus existencias.
Sin duda que se necesitan desesperadamente escuelas para padres.
Pero ha habido un cambio en la estructura de la sociedad que se ha ido dando por décadas y cuyos dramáticos y tristes resultados estamos viendo ahora.
Son el resultado de la desintegración y atomización familiar.
Los niños de antes, aquellos del comienzo del siglo anterior, vivieron en el seno de familias grandes. Vivieron juntos no sólo con sus padres, sino con abuelos/as, tías y tíos. Nunca estaban solos, nunca estaban sin poder preguntar algo, buscar ayuda, plantear una situación que estaban viviendo.
Estaban también más controlados, había preocupación sobre cómo hacían los deberes escolares, o cuánto estudiaban en secundaria, qué amigos frecuentaban, etc.
Hoy todo eso se ha perdido. Los jovencitos y muchachos son dejados solos, y son usualmente llevados por los peores vientos de la sociedad que en sí misma refleja confusión y desorientación.
¿Y por qué la familia se ha atomizado?
En principio, porque hay individuos que en su deseo de hacer dinero, han construido lugares donde habitar cada vez más reducidos.
La vida anterior suponía viviendas extendidas, con cuatro o cinco dormitorios, un par de baños, una gran sala, etc. Había lugar físico para la convivencia de todos.
Hoy se postulan como viviendas, un horror llamado "monoambiente", que además se venden a costos elevados.
Hoy se fomenta la soledad, el aislamiento, y no es extraño que eso nos dé un producto humano psicótico.
Hemos perdido el sentido de familia, de unión familiar, de cariño entre los familiares. Los tíos y primos nos resultan igual que extraños, y buscaremos en vano encontrar en amigos lo que carecemos en lazos de consanguinidad.
Tal vez tomar conciencia de esto, nos lleve a revertir esta equivocada tendencia, esta tendencia des-humanizadora.
Debemos poner al ser humano por sobre el dinero, la calidad de vida por sobre las ganancias y la avaricia de algunos. No podemos tolerar que la sociedad se nos siga estropeando.
Es hora de re-evaluar lo vivido antes y con los debidos ajustes y actualizaciones, hacerlo vigente hoy.
Estaremos gestando una sociedad más humana.
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CONSEQUENCES OF FAMILY DISINTEGRATION
When we look at society, when we observe the behavior of young people of the new millennium and some from a little earlier, it is impossible for us to understand, accept or tolerate forms of behavior incompatible with entrenched values of society, which we see lost.
It is more than possible that many parents feel impotent, cross their arms, do not know what to do.
It is also possible that many young people and adolescents do not understand why or what they are living for, and do not have clear guidelines of what to do with their existences.
Without a doubt, schools for parents are desperately needed.
But there has been a change in the structure of society, which has been going on for decades, and whose dramatic and sad results we are seeing now.
It is the result of family disintegration and atomization.
The children of before, those of the beginning of the previous century, lived in the bosom of large families. They lived together not only with their parents but with grandparents, uncles. They were never alone, they were never without being able to ask something, ask for guidance, and pose a situation they were living.
They were also more controlled; there was concern about how they did their homework, or how much they studied in high school, what friends they frequented.
It is more than possible that many parents feel impotent, cross their arms, do not know what to do.
It is also possible that many young people and adolescents do not understand why or what they are living for, and do not have clear guidelines of what to do with their existences.
Without a doubt, schools for parents are desperately needed.
But there has been a change in the structure of society, which has been going on for decades, and whose dramatic and sad results we are seeing now.
It is the result of family disintegration and atomization.
The children of before, those of the beginning of the previous century, lived in the bosom of large families. They lived together not only with their parents but with grandparents, uncles. They were never alone, they were never without being able to ask something, ask for guidance, and pose a situation they were living.
They were also more controlled; there was concern about how they did their homework, or how much they studied in high school, what friends they frequented.
Today all that has been lost. The youngsters and the boys are left alone and are usually carried by the worst winds of a society that in itself reflects confusion and disorientation.
And why has the family been atomized?
Initially, because in their eagerness to earn money, they have built places where they can live more and more reduced.
The previous life meant extended houses, with four or five bedrooms, a couple of bathrooms, a large room, etc. There was a physical place for the coexistence of all.
Today they postulate as homes, a horror called "monoatmospheres", which are also sold at high costs.
Today, loneliness and isolation are encouraged, and it is not strange that this gives us a psychotic human product.
We have lost the sense of family, of family union, of affection between family members. Uncles and cousins are like strangers to us, and we will seek in vain to find in friends, what we lack in bonds of consanguinity.
Perhaps to take conscience of this, it takes to us to revert this mistaken tendency, this dehumanizing tendency.
We must put the human being above money, the quality of life over profits and the greed of some. We can not tolerate that society continues to spoil us.
It is time to re-evaluate what was experienced before, and with the appropriate adjustments and updates, make it effective today.
We will be creating a more human society.
And why has the family been atomized?
Initially, because in their eagerness to earn money, they have built places where they can live more and more reduced.
The previous life meant extended houses, with four or five bedrooms, a couple of bathrooms, a large room, etc. There was a physical place for the coexistence of all.
Today they postulate as homes, a horror called "monoatmospheres", which are also sold at high costs.
Today, loneliness and isolation are encouraged, and it is not strange that this gives us a psychotic human product.
We have lost the sense of family, of family union, of affection between family members. Uncles and cousins are like strangers to us, and we will seek in vain to find in friends, what we lack in bonds of consanguinity.
Perhaps to take conscience of this, it takes to us to revert this mistaken tendency, this dehumanizing tendency.
We must put the human being above money, the quality of life over profits and the greed of some. We can not tolerate that society continues to spoil us.
It is time to re-evaluate what was experienced before, and with the appropriate adjustments and updates, make it effective today.
We will be creating a more human society.
Milton W. Hourcade
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