ABOUT ROMANCE

Anyone who has been lucky to live a romance knows very well that it entails illusion, reality, hope, tenderness, love, and that peculiar feeling that you are like floating in the air.

Romance is an extraordinary experience, full of beautiful feelings, plenty of the sensation that you have a reason to be living, and that your life has got an excellent turn. 

Romance is exquisite. That is why it is full of unforgettable moments that seem really incredible but they are true.

There are two lovers for whom life is what they are experiencing and all the rest of the world is nearly inexistent.

In a certain way, romance is like living in a parallel universe. It is a universe of two.

Nevertheless, it results very interestingly to go to the definitions of romance.

To our surprise (yours and mine) romance is defined like this:

“A feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love." Maybe the mystery is associated with the fact as to how the romance has emerged. And the excitement is a direct consequence that it is not fiction, it is something real and it is happening to us. And of course, the key word is “love”. Without love, romance is impossible.

“Love, especially when sentimental or idealized.” Certainly, romance implies to be living a very sentimental mood, and in that mood, we can come to idealize not only the other person but our very relation.

“A love affair, especially one that is not very serious or long-lasting.” This is a particular kind of “romance” I don't feel very comfortable with because it talks about an affair, and usually, that word implies not only something that will last briefly but also something that is violating certain rules. An affair is not serious at all, and therefore it won't be long-lasting. I wouldn't call it romance but just a sexual adventure. 

I think that what starts to be a romance could lead to a permanent relationship as partners or as a married couple. That would be the most successful and happy follow up of a romance.

But also the romance could end in failure, separation, drama, sadness, pain for both members of the couple or for one of them, whoever she or he is, the one who really was deeply in love with the other.

Your personal experience will tell you what kind of romance are you living or have you lived.

Milton W. Hourcade